I was raised in a home where love was entangled with control. Emotional abuse, gaslighting, and coercion shaped how I learned to survive — by staying agreeable, shrinking my needs, and questioning my reality. That conditioning followed me into adulthood, where familiar harm kept showing up disguised as love. I rebuilt my life more than once, but the deeper wounds remained.

When I became a mother, I believed I was finally safe. My husband was charming, helpful, and “nice.” Until, quietly, he wasn’t. The shift was subtle and imperceptible to even me: stonewalling, weaponized incompetence, passive aggression, and covert punishments became increasingly common. As I stretched myself thin over the years, caring for our kids almost entirely on my own while protecting his image as a “great father,” I began to disappear. I didn’t have language for what was happening, only symptoms: overwhelm, anxiety, numbness, mystery chronic illnesses, desperately searching for solutions just so I could survive. For thirteen years, I hid the truth, even from myself.

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After I ended my marriage, I expected peace. I was ready to heal and co‑parent with cooperation and integrity.

But coercive control doesn’t stop when the relationship ends. It mutates. It escalates.

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Smear campaigns destroyed my entire support system overnight. My children were used as weapons against me. Communication became nothing more than a source of manipulation and control. And the court system wasn’t an option for protection — I was told by more than one professional that covert abuse is either ignored altogether or twisted to further harm victims.

It took longer than it should have, but eventually, I saw the truth: my children and I were being deliberately harmed. These weren’t misunderstandings. I wasn’t being petty and un-cooperative. My kids and I were being sabotaged on every level: quietly, consistently, and deeply. And no one believed me.

That moment of clarity changed everything.

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I stopped trying to improve what was never in my power to fix.

I stopped explaining. I stopped chasing fairness. I stopped making excuses.

I stopped relying on outside sources to deliver resolution or peace.

And I finally got serious about building a home filled with stability and love.

I reclaimed my power.

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I also got to work. I drew on three decades of professional experience in psychotherapy, strategic litigation consulting, mediation, trauma recovery, somatic energy work, and hard-earned personal insight.

What emerged was a co-parenting system grounded in reality: the ability to predict and sidestep coercive control, set unshakeable boundaries, generate court-ready documentation, focus on nervous-system repair, and, for the first time in my life, discover true personal empowerment.

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I stopped fighting. I started observing.

I stopped reacting. I started tracking patterns.

I protected my energy. I rebuilt my strength. I protected my children.

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This isn’t about surface healing or short-term wins. It’s about turning survival into strategy. Trauma into truth. Pain into power. It’s about transforming a shattered foundation into something built to last, even in a world that may never see the whole picture.

If you’ve endured more than anyone should, and you’re ready to stop rebuilding on quicksand…

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I see you.

I know the terrain.

And I’ll walk beside you as you reclaim your clarity, your peace, your family, and your future.

Are you ready to reclaim your life?

Background

My work is grounded in lived trauma and a rare blend of personal experience and multidisciplinary training that shapes how I support protective parents at every level.

EDUCATION

• M.A., Counseling Psychology, University of San Francisco, Emphasis in Marriage & Family Therapy and Adult Development

• B.A., Political Science, University of California, Davis

PROFESSIONAL EXPERIENCE

• Strategic forensic evidence and litigation consulting for attorneys in global law firms

• Project management for complex legal teams

• Professional coach for working parents and complex trauma and narcissistic abuse survivors

• College adjunct professor in areas such as Psychology, Communications, and Strategies for Success

• Expert speaker, podcast host, and published author

ADVANCED CERTIFICATIONS & TRAINING

• Certified Professional Coach (Coach Training Alliance)

• Certified Court Mediator (Utah Dispute Resolution)

• Internal Family Systems (IFS), Level 1 Certification

• Certified in Energetic and Somatic Healing Modalities

Disclaimer: I am not a lawyer, therapist, or licensed mental health professional. The information, tools, and support offered through this site are for educational purposes only and do not constitute legal advice, therapy, or a substitute for professional services. Always consult with a qualified attorney or licensed mental health provider regarding your specific circumstances.