My childhood taught me that love could be indistinguishable from control. Gaslighting, exploitation, and coercion were normalized early, training me to minimize my needs and doubt my own perception. That conditioning followed me into adulthood, where I rebuilt my life more than once, but the deeper wounds remained.

When I became a mother, I believed I was finally safe. My husband was charming, helpful, and “nice.” Until, quietly, he wasn’t. The shift was subtle: stonewalling, passive aggression, weaponized incompetence, and covert punishments crept in over time. As I carried nearly all the parenting and protected his image as a “great father,” I slowly disappeared. I didn’t have language for what was happening, only the symptoms: anxiety, numbness, chronic illness, and relentless exhaustion. For more than a decade, I hid the truth, even from myself.

AFTER I ENDED MY MARRIAGE, I CRAVED PEACE.

I WAS READY TO HEAL AND CO-PARENT WITH INTEGRITY.

BUT COERCIVE CONTROL DOESN’T END WHEN THE RELATIONSHIP ENDS. IT ESCALATES.

Before I understood what was happening, smear campaigns dismantled my support system. My children were turned against each other and me. Communication became a tool for manipulation and harassment. The relentless chaos and stress seemed impossible to escape.

Over time, the truth became undeniable: the harm to my children and me wasn’t accidental. It was calculated, sophisticated, and persistent. These weren’t misunderstandings. This wasn’t just “the aftermath of divorce.” We were being sabotaged on every level — quietly, consistently, and deeply. And no one could see it.

THIS CLARITY CHANGED ME.

I stopped trying to improve what was never mine to fix.

I stopped outsourcing my safety.

I stopped explaining.

I stopped chasing fairness.

I stopped engaging in the chaos.

THEN I GOT TO WORK.

The Ryne Method™ is a series of tools and strategies I developed through refinement and real-world application. After years of confusion and struggle, these resources enabled me to document accurately, recognize patterns, make clear decisions under pressure, and remain steady and effective while protecting my children.

I STOPPED FIGHTING. I STARTED OBSERVING.

I STOPPED REACTING. I STARTED TRACKING PATTERNS.

I PRIORITIZED MY FAMILY’S FUTURE.

This isn’t about surface healing or short‑term wins. It’s about building a solid foundation for yourself and your family, even in a world that will never see the full picture. I’m honored to be able to share The Ryne Method™ with my fellow Protective Parents.

BUILT FOR EVERY PROTECTIVE PARENT

Regardless of gender identity, sexual orientation, race, religion, disability, family structure, or background — your lived experience matters here. The Ryne Method™ is built on the belief that every parent navigating abuse deserves support that is trauma-informed, inclusive, and rooted in respect.